Monday, 8 May 2017

To The Man That Asked Why I, The Wife Was Mowing The Lawn.

Man - "Why on earth are you mowing the lawn? Surely, that's your Husband's job."



Pppuuuuurrrrrrrllllllease!

I don't even know why I am taking the time out of my day to write this post really. But, I am. And, I am under no illusion that the Gentleman that I encountered during this exchange of words will most likely never come across this Post and never know what my feelings towards him are but I don't mind this.
Now, I know that above I called this chappy a 'Gentleman' and I called him this because he most likely probably is a 'Gentleman'. I mean, come on as annoying as his sentence was - "Why on earth are you mowing the lawn? Surely, that's your Husband's job." It was with good intentions that he said it. He is probably from the generation where it was the utmost of 'Gentlemanly' things to do, mowing the lawn. And, I am sure back then his wife/partner very much appreciated his efforts and truly did think him a Gentleman and I do too really. Only, I found his comment highly offensive in today's World. I don't think he meant to offend. In fact, I am sure he didn't mean to. None the less he did and perhaps he needs to understand my generation and me a little more than he currently does.

So, why was I mowing the lawn and not allowing my Husband to do his 'job'? Well, firstly it is NOT my Husband's job to mow the lawn. It is no ones job. It is just a job that needs doing by someone that lives within our household. We don't have specific job titles and we do not have specific job roles. We just do what we have got to do, in our home, together to make our Family and house run smoothly. Nothing in our house is decided by Gender. There's no need for decisions to be made this way. We just base our decisions on what needs doing at what specific time and who is available to do it when needed .
Secondly, if you were insinuating that I could not mow the lawn because I am a woman then please allow me to tell you just how very wrong you are. I shall keep this brief as I know that all my readers will know exactly what I am getting at -
I DO NOT MOW THE LAWN WITH MY VAGINA. SO, IT DOES NOT MATTER WHETHER I AS A WOMAN MOW THE LAWN OR WHETHER MY HUSBAND (WHO YES HAS A PENIS) AS A MAN MOWS THE LAWN. OUR GENITALIA IS NOT NEEDED TO BE USED WHEN PUSHING A LAWN MOWER THEREFOR AS A WOMAN I AM MORE THAN CAPABLE OF COMPLETING THIS TASK!
Come on Sir. This way of thinking is highly old school , backwards and ancient in thought process. We all know deep down that this way of thinking needs to change and change fast. In many instances it is and has. But, clearly a small few perhaps a large few think otherwise and they shouldn't. They really, really shouldn't. Don't discount someone and their abilities just because of their Gender. I don't think I need to say anymore on this subject do I? It's a whole new post. You get the picture!

Also, my Husband works extremely hard, 5 days a week, leaving at 7am and not returning till 7pm. Once home work does not stop for him. He often works well into the night and has been known to rise early to complete work place tasks. If by mowing the lawn I have taken a slight work load of his mind and out of his hands then I am happy to do so. He does all that he does every day for our Family and he does this so that I can be at home in the week with our Children. I do work weekends. But, work-wise it is nothing in comparison to what he does. In saying this, I am not in anyway putting 'Stay at Home Mom's' down. I am not saying that what we do isn't 'work' and isn't hard. It bloody well is. I know that and don't need reminding Believe me. All that I am saying is that I appreciate my Husband and the pressure he faces every day at Work and if by completing a house hold task eases the pressure on him then HELL YEAH I am going to do it. And, actually I enjoy doing it. I never think twice about completing certain tasks. It never occurs in my mind that a particular job may be my Husbands 'job' never.

And, Gentleman have you ever thought that this 'Wife', 'Girl', 'Woman' might be mowing the lawn because she actually wants to? Shock shock horror.

Good grief, I apologise to the guy but what you said to me that morning at the Supermarket has got to be the dumbest thing that I have ever EVER heard! 

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