Okay. So, you don't. You won't and you can't.... Well, I don't, I won't and I can't. It's just something that I seriously cannot deal with. Have a tantrum, have a scream, have a good, proper cry if you need to. But, don't come to me whining and moaning with that awful fake cry that just sounds like a lawnmower that's on it's last legs. I can't cope. I will be honest. It does me in. It's too much. I think it's the noise mainly plus the ridiculousness of it. So, you're LEGO has come apart and your pissed about it, that's cool. Come and tell me and we will sort it. Don't throw your toys out of the pram and sit there 'pretending' to cry with an awful whine to your tone. So, the dog has sat on your play mat again and yet again you're pissed about it. Mate, that's fine. Come and tell me and we will sort it. I'll move the dog alone. But, don't throw your arm in the air, drop to floor and give me the lawnmower sound whilst moaning my name in the loudest droan you possibly can. So, you're Sister pinched a raisin out of your raisin tub and once again your feeling pretty annoyed about the whole situation. Come and tell me and I'll get in under control and explain to her that what she did was wrong whilst grabbing you another raisin. DON'T push your food away and whine at the top of your voice in a bid to win my attention. Seriously, it does not work and it will never work. I am immune to helping a moaning or a whining child. I just can't do it.
now, I know many of you will be reading this and will pass judgement very quickly. How can she be so cruel? He obviously needs her blah blah blah. And, I totally get that. Of course he does. But, there is a way to speak to me and to deal with a situation. Come on, in my eyes it's just a little prep for the real world is it not? I know that sounds harshe. But, you don't get what you want or need just because your whining about it. You have to take control of a situation and find a resolution. Nothing gets resolved if you just sit there moaning. But, actually doing nothing. Surely, that isn't the wrong thing to be teaching my Children? Is it? Well, if it is, I disagree. Happily disagree.
My Son is quite the moaner and he really hates when things don't necessarily go to plan. And, that's totally cool. It's a good thing to be a bit of a perfectionist and strive for the best. But, if things don't go you're way then deal with it buster. Don't sit there whining about it and hoping that it will just change because you're having a good moan. It won't. Do something. Tell someone. Sort it or get it sorted.
Slowly, he is getting used to this concept and I am really glad. I've taken to ignoring him when he moans, whines or gets angry unnecessarily only responding once he has calmed down took control of his behaviour and emotions and addressed both me and the situation effectively. Moaning is not effective. Whining is not effective. Not with me anyway. You'll achieve nothing whining and moaning at me and as horrible as it sounds the sooner my littlies understand that, the sooner LEGO, DUPLO, train track, bath time, story time, crafts and art situation will be resolved quicker.
I'm sort of just waiting for the barrage of negative comments regarding this post. And, I do sort of welcome them because it is always grand to see the 2 sides to the coin. But, you must understand that I am not doing this to be a 'bitch' parent. I'm ignoring the whining and moaning because actually I'd be the 'bitch' parent if I didn't You see, if I listened and I let it affect me then I could blow, I would blow. But, I don't because I use my initiative and take myself away from a situation I don't like. I don't like the moaning and the whining because it is not needed and rather than shout about it and lose control, I ignore it and slowly it resolves it's self because slowly they realise how to get my attention. And, thankfully that is without moaning and whining.
So, how do you cope with a whining, moaning child? ... Well, in the best way you can!